08/24/2024

LETS TAKE CARE OF ONE ANOTHER!

I’m talking to you beautiful women out there!

I’m going to be very straightforward.

I’m 52 years old and it is so very sad and discouraging that at my age I still experience in my own flesh and bones instances of disrespect and careless behavior when it comes to flirting and playing with fire with single or married men without considering the negative consequences that such a small thing as games of looks and smiles can end in creating a spark that could lead to disaster, destroying a wonderful relationship or a family, a marriage of years, a marriage that got to where it is now based on tremendous amount of sacrifice, effort, sometimes countless hours of counseling and much much more.

Maybe we can put ourselves in other’s shoes and consider how would it feel if we were the person being humiliated and disrespected. It’s painful and very frustrating. I was that other person. 

Let’s learn to LOVE OURSELVES and each other by not being women who desperately need a man at any cost but by being women that a man needs, that one who loves and respects herself so much that is self-confident enough to respect others and is capable of feeling happy for other’s fortune.

Some of us grew up in a culture where “usually” men were the initiators of chaos when it came to relationships. Completely submerged in “machismo” now we know the correct and true meaning of the word is narcissism. They got away with pretty much everything! Starting with flirting and ending in affairs,  in many cases with multiple women at the same time. That’s exactly what narcissism is, absolute absorbed in oneself at any cost, no matter the consequences as long as one does what one pleases for one’s satisfaction.

Unfortunately, with time many women have learned that same behavior with the mistaken assumption that if men have been allowed to have a narcissistic behavior, women should be able to behave equally. Well, if they behave ignorantly and selflessly, why would we do the same? If we decide to put that behavior into action we could be responsible for the same catastrophic consequences and destroy someone’s life. 

My experience throughout my 52 years of age taught me to believe in KARMA! We’re just digging our own grave when we choose to ignore it! “What goes around comes around” “Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you”. These phrases became my MOTTO! If we are careless about the consequences maybe we can stop for a minute and think of our daughters and sons. What message are we sending to them? We are preparing them for failure before they even have a chance to start a family. We’re practically agreeing with the idea that there’s nothing wrong with narcissism. I came to find out recently that there’s an app called “Sugar Daddy”. I am still in disbelief!! It’s so very sad that the world is changing so drastically. This app practically allows and encourages women of all ages but specifically young ones, to search for married men and be their lover in exchange for their wealth! I have three adult children, two beautiful daughters, and a gorgeous son, it’s my responsibility to guide them as much as I can, to speak out loud, and be their role model. I tell them that they only deserve the very best, to never underestimate themselves, and to make sure that they’re always treated as queens and kings but also, to give the same in return. 

My wish is that I can deliver my message to as many men and women out there. Together we can make a difference, touch people’s hearts,  spread the word, and allow us to dream that we can change the world ONE STEP AT A TIME.

Paola Bozas