Let’s talk out loud!!

Let’s bring to light the forbidden topics.

Let us dare to reveal what is hidden but continues to happen day by day, continues to affect entire lives, continues to destroy the innocence, purity and beauty of childhood.

Let’s make room for evolution! LETS BREAK CHAINS!

Without dismissing all the importance of the things that we must preserve and pass on to future generations, I want to thank my dear mother for all her teachings, for all her sacrifice, her infinite love, her great desire to get us ahead, her arduous effort to give us everything and more.

I keep with me as a treasure what I learned from this beautiful woman; Responsibility, honesty, neatness, perseverance, loyalty, dedication, commitment and above all LOVE.

Thank you dear mother, thank you a thousand times.

Her incredible story was one of the reasons for my strong desire to manifest these writings.

I have no positive comments about my indifferent father all my life.

I worked very hard to fill the void of his absolute absence. I offer him my forgiveness and I sincerely wish him infinite peace for the rest of his days. I found it in God and my commitment to my emotional health.

I start this part 2 touching difficult but necessary topics to mention.

ALCOHOLISM AND DRUG ADDICTION

Addictions that destroy families and lives. Perhaps a genetic habit but above all motivated by the example of an entire society. Let’s discover the background of the need to depend on these substances that falsely makes us feel good for a couple of hours. Let’s contribute ourselves so that this substances does nothing not become more important than our physical and mental health, than our partner, our children, parents, and grandchildren. Let’s recognize that alcoholism and drug addiction disrupts the brain giving rise to violence and traumas that are hard to overcome.

PEDOPHILIA

The very pronunciation of this word is difficult because of the terrible meaning.

However, unfortunately it is very common in most families. In general, the aggressor is a relative, friend or neighbor.

 For the simple and ignorant fact of “not being judged by society” this disgusting act is hidden and prohibited from mentioning, resulting in an eternal childhood and adolescent trauma that destroys the self-esteem of the human being “for the rest of their lives”. Worse still, leaving the pedophile without any consequence, maintaining a friendly relationship with this sick individual and implying to society by remaining silent that “everything is fine.” Well IT IS NOT!! Let’s say something!! Let’s teach our children, grandchildren, nephews, godchildren what pedophilia is and how to protect themselves from it. LET’S EDUCATE THEM instead of shutting up! Let us adults, protect them and give them our unconditional support by not turning our heads and dismissing the immense damage that our children and adolescents carry on their backs, feeling abandoned, ignored and guilty.

PARENTING 

We come from generations with narcissistic mindsets. With the idea that because we are adults we do what the adult demands, repeating the same ignorant form of behavior from centuries ago without any evolution. Using harsh and even cruel discipline. Destroying the self-esteem of our childhood and forming resentful, frustrated adults who will repeat exactly the same behavior that  will be passed on to the following generations. Let’s accept this reality and apply changes for the future of our loved ones, of our community.

Let us not demand exemplary behavior from children when adults are the ones who are wrong, it is up to us, it is our duty to teach them, instruct them, discipline them with LOVE. Otherwise we are transmitting to them everything we learned, the good and unfortunately the bad. Let’s respect their beautiful and pure innocence instead of ripping them off with our rigidity. Let’s talk to them about sex, what it means and what consequences it brings when they enter the age of curiosity opening the idea to practicing it without knowing what they are doing. This is part of nature. Let’s have family conversations about it as something totally natural. We will be surprised by the positive outcomes of this decision, which in our childhood was prohibited and was a punished subject.

Let’s open our minds to change. Let’s give them the immense love and patience they deserve, let’s help educate leaders and self-confident people.

I do not pretend to express having been an excellent mother because I was not. I carried guilt that weighed tons, I reaped what I sowed, shed many tears but I work on compassion towards myself on a daily basis so as not to carry them anymore. I did the only thing I knew how to do at the time. I realized that I repeated the behavior pattern of my ancestors and PRECISELY because of all this is my enormous desire to BREAK CHAINS.

SEXISM

Another issue so common in society that women themselves fall into it by taking part in it.

Why is the fact that it doesn’t matter if a  man is unfaithful, a womanizer, verbally, physically and emotionally abusive? Or rather, we just look the other way completely ignoring it? While if a woman dares to act the same way, she is “a slut”? Women: let’s take care of each other by not taking part in this ignorant and macho mentality. Let’s be role models for our children by rejecting this rotten and wrong way of thinking.

This way of acting is obviously lousy for both men and women. Let’s not give rise to thinking that it’s okay to interfere with someone who is an important part of his/her own family and we could potentially be destroying a home. Let’s respect what doesn’t belong to us.

Let’s start from our mindset letting go of this behavior that separates us, marks us negatively, keeps us with a mediocre mindset and extremely ignorant.

For the most part, women work on a par with men outside the home, but three times or more inside the home. Caring for the home implies multiple endless tasks.

I am totally guilty of taking part in this eternal routine, having raised 3 children and having become a slave to my family, assuming that all the household chores belonged to me and were my obligation as a woman. Now at 51 years old I am surprised that I have not shaken these beliefs out of my being and have expressed my exhaustion by asking for help or assigning tasks to others.

CLAIM

Let’s stop pretending who we are not by saying YES to everything so as not to offend, to appear perfect. NOBODY is perfect, can we agree?

Let’s give ourselves permission to say NO from time to time and ACCEPT THE NO from others with broad minds. Saying YES to everything forces us to lie to such an extent that it becomes a habit and we fall into a vicious circle that passes from generation to generation as something totally acceptable and common.

Let’s give place to forgiveness, to ask for it because surely we can do wrong and hurt others. Accept it when someone offers it to us. We will experience immense peace when we practice forgiveness from the heart. Let’s appreciate others as they are without hesitation to say NO to what is not compatible with us or we don’t feel comfortable with but making it possible to maintain harmony. It is the decision of others if they accept us as we are or not as long as we give our best. If not, let’s accept that too and move on without resentment.

Let’s be transparent and leave an example of healthy and sincere relationships instead of giving rise to hypocrisy and falsehood. Nothing more beautiful than forming relationships with relatives and friends that become family. With those that one knows that we can really count on and they with us. Let’s surround ourselves with whom we can be totally direct and honest with because we know that our relationship has an indestructible foundation.

JUDGMENT

How superior are we to judge?? Absolutely no one is superior to anyone in our own scale. We do not choose to come from where we did  or to be who we are.

We are the result of the imperfect legacy from which we came. Some of us choose to evolve and others remain comfortable in ignorance.

There is a word that contains everything I want to describe, HUMBLENESS! Let’s be humble and free from judgment. Let’s treat others as we want to be treated. Let’s start by showing affection for each other, let’s leave selfishness, envy and lack of compassion behind, none of these  will bring us anything good.

Let us sincerely rejoice in the happiness and prosperity of others. Let’s eliminate anger and frustration and contribute to positive change by instilling harmony and collaboration.

RELIGION

Big words!

A more delicate subject to touch.

In my personal opinion, religion separates when it is supposed to unite.

“If you don’t believe in Jesus you are not worthy of salvation!” What a radical belief!  I still try to respect each opinion and receive the same respect for mine. We are all EXACTLY where we need to be at the moment as far as evolution is concerned. Let’s understand that when we talk about religion.

I love God, the universe, HIS perfect creation. I am aware that I do not have the power and wisdom to create a living being and that each has a purpose “for my benefit” that depends on me connecting with its perfection and letting the divine work of the universe flow in me and my life.

I have been around for half a century and I still have so much to learn. The most important things are in front of our noses but we don’t see them. I mean the ones with which we could not survive, the air we breathe, the beautiful and infinite energy, our soul, our spirit, our feelings. These great invisible factors that we must focus on and give much more importance.

The essence in each person, the beautiful side of each being, the potential in each individual.

Let’s respect the beliefs of different cultures including religions without having to take part in them if we think it’s not for oneself but let’s consider all the positive things we can learn from each other.

I have been practicing this and as a result, the universe has put so many wonderful people in my life that words are not enough to describe how blessed I feel.

The more I educate myself about reincarnation, the more convinced I am of it. Obviously this is my personal belief and I never intend to impose my beliefs on anyone.

The average lifespan of my generation is approximately 75-80 years.

Spiritually speaking; If we think about it, we just started to know ourselves and to know what we want between the ages of 25-30, some of us take even longer leaving us half a life to evolve concluding that a single life is not enough to learn and experience an infinity of factors. This motivates me even more to try as much as possible to appreciate every minute that I have to live in PEACE, concentrating on the beautiful, the good, the positive without giving so much importance to the negative because life is too short to waste time being angry, frustrated or depressed. If there really are more life opportunities, then let’s move forward instead of going backwards or staying stagnant. Let’s earn heaven for when we have reached the perfect evolution.

GRATITUDE

I started to practice and focus on counting my blessings instead of concentrating on the negative and let me tell you, what a great decision!!

Let’s get used to waking up and starting our day with gratitude.

Every second of our days, we take for granted hundreds and hundreds of blessings such as waking up, having a roof, something to put in our mouths, breathing, walking, etc, etc.

Let’s give it the value that each blessing deserves, let’s realize how important it is to be grateful. Let’s share our blessings with a sporadic act of kindness. no matter how small.

MANIFESTATION

By learning to love ourselves and rid ourselves of guilt, we begin to accept that we deserve what we long for.

Let’s manifest our wish list and dreams by thinking and fervently believing that EVERYTHING is possible when we have faith, we love and respect the universe/God and his splendid creations and we begin to ask without hesitation that HE knows our hearts better than anyone and loves us infinitely.

THESE TOPICS  beautiful people, were the ones to which I referred in my writing part 1.

Thank you for taking the time to read my messages! May God unite us, bless us and give us the wisdom that will lead us to glory.

My biggest wish is that my words touch many hearts and if they would touch just one it would be much more than enough.

Let’s keep dreaming and wishing on THE HOPE that we could change the world one step at a time.

Paola Bozas